- Why is it that our society more readily accepts this type of abuse when it is just as hurtful as any other type, including sexual?
- Why is it that people need to feel so trapped that they can't speak up against it? How long does it have to go on?
- Who's place is it to say something?
- What can be said?
- What can be done?
- Why do I allow my children to see it go on in the lives of people they love?
- At what point is ENOUGH, ENOUGH!!!!
- At what point is it unhealthy for my kids to be around negative influences that still love them and treat them well?
- When do I say to my kids "I know you love them but it's not okay for you to see them act a certain way" and how do I say it without hurting anyones feelings?
- When will the "abuser" start abusing my kids?
- Will I recongnize it in time?
- Will I ever be able to forgive myself if they end up getting hurt?
- Is the risk worth it?
- Why do the innocent good people get hurt and the abusers get away with it?
- How do I explain these negative actions/reactions/words to my kids?
- When will people stop justifying the negative and look for a solution?
- Who's responsibility is it to say "I'm not letting you do this anymore to the people that you love and that love you"?
It takes 100 positive friends/people for every negative friend/person in your life. Negative people bring you down faster than you can be brought back up.
I'm supposed to be working right now, but as you can tell, I have many things going through my head that I am wrestling with. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, there comes a time when your kids come first (the second they are born) and ties may need to be broken for a while for the sake of your children and the longterm affect it may have on them. The crappy part is.....the kids loose out either way!
It's a known fact that the negative influences/times in your life are more influencial than the positive. It will only take 1 time of being emotionally abused or treated poorly for my kids to be potentially ruined and I'm not willing to risk that!!!
If the problem was alcohol abuse I wouldn't let my children around a drunk.
If the problem was physical abuse I wouldn't let my children around someone who would possible hit them or hit and abuse others in their presence.
So why should/do I allow them to be around a "loose cannon" that can't always, or chooses not to, control their emotions, words and actions and continues to control and manipulate those around them.
It's a fine line and and an obvious line to draw all at the same time....so it's really hard. At what point does the "risk outweigh the reward"?
I have to say that emotional and verbal abuse is a touchy, ugly, subject and it's ruining the lives of people around me that I love SO much and I don't know what to do about it!
